Ashley and Adam met in Advanced Placement English in high school. Ashley had developed quite the crush on him and was hoping he’d invite her to prom. He didn’t, but luckily that wasn’t the end of their love story.
“Not being much of a dancer, Adam said he didn’t think he was going to prom and convinced me that I would have a great time going with another one of our friends who loved to dance,” Ashley says. “In the weeks leading up to the dance he realized what a chicken he had been.” After being pressured by his friends, Adam decided to go to prom by himself.
Ashley was frustrated with the turn of events, and felt sure he wasn’t into her. She was wrong. “Over the course of the evening and many dances with Adam, I realized that the feelings I had were, in fact, mutual,” she says. “Over the next few days and weeks, we fell completely for each other and started dating. That was 11 years ago.”
Adam proposed to Ashley in the house the couple had just bought overlooking the Saco River in Biddeford. The couple started planning their wedding back home in Kennebunkport where they grew up. “We knew we wanted to get married on the farm where Adam grew up, surrounded by our families and friends,” Ashley says.
The entire wedding event was held at Adam’s family farm, Blackrock Farm, in Kennebunkport. The ceremony was held under flowering trees and an arbor, the cocktail hour was held in the gardens and greenhouses, and the reception was under a sailcloth tent beside the pond.
The theme of literature and books was used throughout the event, as reading is one of Adam and Ashley’s favorite pastimes. Their save the date cards were library cards chronicling the important dates and events of their relationship and their ceremony featured readings from their favorite love stories and poems, including Pablo Neruda, Shakespeare, and Gabriel Garcia Marquez.
Getting ready at her parent’s house was one of Ashley’s favorite parts of the day. “When it was time for me to put on the dress, it was a big reveal moment,” she says. “Although my girls came shopping with me, I had kept the dress I chose a secret from everyone except our moms. Everyone was tearing up when I finally put it on!”
Many of the flowers used throughout the day were sourced right from the farm. Trees were used to hide the tent poles and the head table was made by Ashley’s father. Flowers that sat in old glass bottles alternated with lettuce and herb topiaries in terra cotta along the farm tables. Mixed drinks and locally brewed beer were served in mason jars. Adam’s 100-year-old great aunt gave her signature toast “to our favorite people” to start the party.
In Her Words
We asked the bride more about the big day. Here’s what Ashley said…
…that we had bit the bullet and booked The Shuck Truck to come and serve oysters during the cocktail hour. We were trying really hard to stick to our budget but now I think the splurge would have been worth it for the delicious memories and fun pictures.
I’m glad that
…we made a weekend out of our wedding. Our rehearsal dinner was a lobster bake on Thursday night at the Arundel Yacht Club. Friday night we invited the guests out for an evening cruse on a local whale watch boat and then went out for a fish fry. We have been together for so long that most of our family and friends already knew each other well, but by the end of the weekend everyone was so close!
I really liked
…that all the members of the bridal party, family, and almost all the guests had met each other long before this party. Our wedding was the biggest party we had ever been to, but it still had the feeling of comfort you can only get from old friends reuniting.
My advice to other couples is
…to sit down with both sets of parents very early in the wedding planning process to talk about the budget and guest list. It is an awkward conversation to have, but being really honest about how much we could contribute helped us be mindful of keeping things reasonable throughout the process. We came up with a preliminary guest list early with everyone we thought our parents might want to invite. This gave us lots of time to review it with them and made sure we only had the people most important to us there.
Photography by C.A. Smith Photography
Ceremony and Reception Venue: Blackrock Farm
Catering: Blue Elephant Events and Catering
Florist: Lyn Stillwell and Lisa Whelan from Blackrock Farm
Invitations: The Village Paperie, Kennebunk
Rentals: Marshal Tent and Event Rental
, Kittery and One Stop Event Rentals
, South Portland
Makeup: Amy Valente from Makeup, Then Kiss
Wedding Rings: Daunis Fine Jewelry
Entertainment: Luke Lanigan from The Music Man DJ Service
After Hours Transportation: HydiDrive
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Tiffany & Patrick: 2013 Real Maine Wedding of the Year
Lindsey & Bennett
Sara & Joe